With the exception of slurs, verbal abuse, and hate speech that’s clearly intended to cause harm, I don’t believe in treating words as verboten and shameful. A “problematic” word does not a problematic person make. Language is evolving very rapidly, especially in social justice circles, and the majority of people are not up to speed on all things at all times. Words are just tools. Lacking vocabulary is not a mark of shame, nor is possessing it an indicator of virtue.